Taking Ownership

A certain element of leadership has really been on my mind today. The element of taking ownership not only of your mistakes but of your problems. Too many times we push our problems onto others and blame the situation on something they are doing. In some cases, it may be a problem that is a result of something that the other person did but in those situations it is important to confront those people in the right manner.

On a video blog I found today from the Leadership Training blog, Bill Stinnett discusses using the right words to approach others with your problems.

What people typically do is begin the conversation with what we call “You-Messages”. And a You-Message is something about this other person…in every one of those, there is some assumption about that other person’s intentions.

This kind of message makes people defensive. Proper language to minimize defense makes confrontation and problem solving more effective.

 

 

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